Life is made of roads, of comings and goings; it is not made of constant perfection but of accepting and letting go of those things that bother, with patience and self-pity. The situations in our life are presented as “mixed” colors, there are light shades, others stronger and darker; we face painful situations, others uncomfortable or annoying, unpleasant or even “unbearable” but, as well as the colors, different shades can also be presented, such as going through difficult and painful moments but at the same time, we can feel by our side It helps, or we find an activity such as talking with someone, listening to music, writing, that could help us improve the moment or the “tonality” of the colors.
When we are faced with the challenge of facing unpleasant emotions such as sadness, anger, frustration or, resisting those unforeseen, painful or uncomfortable situations, the first thing they taught us or learned was to “avoid”, not allowing ourselves to feel, or think about what we find it uncomfortable. The constant fight against what we resist, takes us away from what is valuable to us, approaching without realizing it, suffering; avoiding painful situations increases discomfort in the medium and long term.
Learning to relate to our inner world (thoughts, emotions) will allow us to relate in a way that does not magnify our suffering, creating a full and meaningful life.
Acceptance involves giving way to “difficult” feelings, emotions, and thoughts, without trying to control or avoid them. He invites us to say YES to what life presents us with. Psychological flexibility helps us to lead a full and meaningful life, even when there is pain.
We are not what happens to us, instead of focusing on the past or the future, we could focus on the present, on the here and now. We must turn to see what we consider valuable or really important to us because a meaningful life is guided by our values, committed to walk as many times as necessary, the path where what is important to us really is.
What kind of person do I want to be?; What is meaningful to me?; What do I want my life to be about?
Lic. Karen Hutchinson
Eating Disorder Expert Psychology Coordinator